Monday, February 28, 2011

Listening: One Way to Build Relationships By Barbara Baggerly-Hinojosa



In order to create and maintain good relationships with others, it is important to develop good communication skills which include the skill of listening.  Communication skills, such as listening, take continuous practice in order to be fully developed.  In order to be an effective leader and build strong and lasting relationships, we must be good listeners. 

Extraordinary leaders are great listeners who look at the speaker, ask questions, provide feedback, and act on the information they obtain.  Listening has always been important in the workplace, but is even more so today in a world where listening has become a fading art. It is clear that time has changed and so have the needs of those with whom we work and live.  


Today's employees want to be asked for feedback and they want to be heard. Here are three tips to help you become a better listener.

1. Look at the speaker.

One of the strongest ways a person knows when someone is not listening is that the “listener” is not looking at the “speaker.”  You know that feeling when you are speaking to someone and he/she does not make eye contact, is looking behind you, is texting, or day dreaming.  You know right away that the person is not listening, right?  Look directly at the person speaking.

2. Ask questions in response to a question.

That’s right.  Ask a question when someone asks you a question.  Great listeners ask questions, especially as a response to a question asked of them.  For example, when you are at work and run into an employee in the office on Monday morning, a typical exchange will be for you to ask about their weekend.  The employee is likely to respond, "Great. And Yours?”  You might respond with, “Mine was great, too. Did you and your husband have a chance to take the kids out during the great weather we had?” By asking questions in response to a question, a leader can show respect and a genuine interest in the well-being of other people.

Just as looking directly at a person who is speaking can make that person feel important, asking questions can make them feel as though their opinions count. In a business setting, asking questions that move the conversation forward and provide additional opportunities to listen to speakers is a great way to build relationships.


3. Provide feedback.

Great listeners solicit feedback in order to ensure that the followers know that the leader values their opinions. More importantly, great leaders take action based on that feedback. Action can be as simple as responding in an e-mail, "Great suggestion, Ana. I'll forward your idea to the appropriate person."  The more leaders ask for opinions, the more comfortable people feel offering it. This is a great way to promote positive relationships with those around us.

Practice these three tips to becoming a better listener and you will be on your way to becoming a super-success by listening more and talking less.

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Barbara Baggerly-Hinojosa is a mother, educator, and wife living in the Rio Grande Valley in Texas.  She is a PhD student with Our Lady of the Lake University in Leadership Studies.  Mrs. Baggerly-Hinojosa is the President of the Leadership Empowerment Group, LLC and is currently researching the relationship between the leadership of the high school principal and the high school drop out rate.  Mrs. Baggerly-Hinojosa is the author of Are You A Ten?  The Ten Characteristics of a Servant Leader.   For ordering information, please contact Mrs. Baggerly-Hinojosa at Barbara@leadershipempowermentgroup.com

What a Good Wife is Worth * Proverbs 31

Welcome to Chapter 31 of our "Walk through Proverbs!" Wow! That was the fastest month ever!  ;)

Thank You and Welcome Today’s Readers from: Israel, Hong Kong, France, Indonesia, Denmark, Hong Kong, Philippines, Germany, Australia, United Kingdom, Canada, India, United States, Pakistan, Spain, and United Arab Emirates. I am honored that you have joined us!

When we began our study, I mentioned that most of these wise sayings were written by King Solomon. This last chapter, however, was written by King Lemuel.

PROVERBS 31

V1 These are the wise sayings of King Lemuel of Massa, taught to him at his mother’s knee.

V2 O my son, whom I have dedicated to The Lord,

V3 do not spend your time with women – the royal pathway of destruction.

V4 And it is not for kings, O Lemuel, to drink wine and whiskey.

V5 For if they drink they may forget their duties and be unable to give justice to those who are oppressed.

V6,7 Hard liquor is for sick men at the brink of death, and wine for those in deep depression. Let them drink to forget their poverty and misery.

V8 You should defend those who cannot help themselves.

V9 Yes, speak up for the poor and needy and see that they get justice.

V10 If you can find a truly good wife, she is worth more than precious gems!

V11 Her husband can trust her, and she will richly satisfy his needs. 

V12 She will not hinder him, but help him all her life.

V13 She finds wool and flax and busily spins it.

V14 She buys imported foods, brought by ship from distant ports.

V15 She gets up before dawn to prepare breakfast for her household, and plans the day’s work for her servant girls.

V16 She goes out to inspect a field, and buys it; with her own hands she plants a vineyard.

V17 She is energetic, a hard worker,


V18 and watches for bargains. She works far into the night!

V19,20 She sews for the poor, and generously gives to the needy.

V21 She has no fear of winter for her household, for she has made warm clothes for all of them.

V22 She also upholsters with finest tapestry; her own clothing is beautifully made – a purple gown of pure linen.

V23 Her husband is well known, for he sits in the council chamber with the other civic leaders.

V24 She makes belted linen garments to sell to the merchants.

V25 She is a woman of strength and dignity, and has no fear of old age.

V26 When she speaks, her words are wise, and kindness is the rule for everything she says.

V27 She watches carefully all that goes on throughout her household, and is never lazy.

V28 Her children stand and bless her; so does her husband. He praises her with these words:

V29 “There are many fine women in the world; but you are the best of them all!”

V30 Charm can be deceptive and beauty doesn’t last, but a woman who fears and reverences God shall be greatly praised.

V31 Praise her for the many fine things she does. These good deeds of hers shall bring her honor and recognition from even the leaders of the nations.

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Sunday, February 27, 2011

EVERY Word of God Proves TRUE! * Proverbs 30

Welcome to Chapter 30 of our study of Proverbs! As always, feel free to add your own 'memorable verses' in the comment section.

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PROVERBS 30

V1 These are the messages of Agur, son of Jakeh, from Massa, addressed to Ithiel and Ucal:

V2 I am tired out, O God, and ready to die. I am too stupid even to call myself a human being!

V3 I cannot understand man, let alone God.

V4 Who else but God goes back and forth to heaven? Who else holds the wind in His Fists, and wraps up the oceans in His Cloak? Who but God has created the world? If there is any other, what is his name – and his son’s name – if you know it?

V5 Every Word of God proves true. He defends all who come to Him for protection.


V6 Do not add to His Words, lest He rebuke you and you be found a liar.

V7 O God, I beg two favors from you before I die:

V8 First, help me never to tell a lie. Second, give me neither poverty nor riches!  Give me just enough to satisfy my needs!

V9 For if I grow rich, I may become content without God. And if I am too poor, I may steal, and thus insult God’s Holy Name.

V10 Never falsely accuse a man to his employer, lest he curse you for your sin.

V11,12 There are those who curse their father and mother, and feel themselves faultless despite their many sins.

V13,14 They are proud beyond description, arrogant, disdainful. They devour the poor with teeth as sharp as knives!

V15,16 There are two things never satisfied, like a leech forever craving more: no, three things! no, four!
Hell
The barren womb
A barren desert
Fire

V17 A man who mocks his father and despises his mother shall have his eye plucked out by ravens and eaten by vultures.


V18,19 There are three things too wonderful for me to understand – no four!
How an eagle glides through the sky.
How a serpent crawls upon a rock.
How a ship finds its way across the heaving ocean.
The growth of love between a man and girl.

V20 There is another thing too: how a prostitute can sin and then say, “What’s wrong with that?”


V21,22,23 There are three things that make the earth tremble – no, four it cannot stand:
A slave who becomes a king,
A rebel who prospers.
A bitter woman when she finally marries.
A servant girl who marries her mistress’ husband.

V24-28 There are four things that are small but unusually wise:
Ants: they aren’t strong, but store up food for the winter
Cliff badgers: delicate little animals who protect themselves by living among the rocks.
The locusts: though they have no leader, they stay together in swarms.
The lizards: they are easy to catch and kill, yet are found even in king’s palaces!

V29,30,31 There are three stately monarchs in the earth – no, four:
The lion, king of the animals. He won’t turn aside for anyone.
The peacock.
The he-goat.
A king as he leads his army.

V32 If you have been a fool by being proud or plotting evil, don’t brag about it – cover your mouth with your hand in shame.

V33 As the churning of cream yields butter, and a blow to the nose causes bleeding, so anger cause quarrels.

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That Temper Won't Do You Any Good if It's Hot! * Proverbs 29

Welcome to Day 29 of the study of Proverbs.  

Thank You and Welcome to Today's Readers from: US, Australia, Canada, Philippines, India, Germany, Singapore, United Kingdom, United Arab Emirates, Egypt, Malaysia and Russia.


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PROVERBS 29

V1 The man who is often reproved but refuses criticism will suddenly be broken and never have another chance.

V2 With good men in authority, the people rejoice; but with the wicked in power, they groan.

V3 A wise son makes his father happy, but a lad who hangs around with prostitutes disgraces him.

V4 A just king gives stability to his nation, but one who demands bribes destroys it.

V5,6 Flattery is a trap; evil men are caught in it, but good men stay away and sing for joy.

V7 The good man knows the poor man’s rights; the godless don’t care.

V8 Fools start fights everywhere while wise men try to keep peace.

V9 There’s no use arguing with a fool. He only rages and scoffs, and tempers flare.

V10 The godly pray for those who long to kill them.

V11 A rebel shouts in anger; a wise man holds his temper in and cools it.

V12 A wicked ruler will have wicked aides on his staff.

V13 Rich and poor are alike in this: each depends on God for light.

V14 A king who is fair to the poor shall have a long reign.

V15 Scolding and spanking a child helps him to learn. Left to himself, he brings shame to his mother.

V16 When rulers are wicked, their people are too; but good men will live to see the tyrant's downfall.

V17 Discipline your son and he will give you happiness and peace of mind.

V18 Where there is ignorance of God, the people run wild; but what a wonderful thing it is for a nation to know and keep His Laws.

V19 Sometimes mere words are not enough---discipline is needed. For the words may not be heeded. 

V20 There is more hope for a fool than for a man of quick temper.

V21 Pamper a servant from childhood, and he will expect you to treat him as a son!

V22 A hot tempered man starts fights and gets into all kinds of trouble. 

V23 Pride ends in a fall, while humility brings honor.

V24 A man who 
assists a thief must really hate himself! For he knows the consequence but does it anyway.

V25 Fear of man is a dangerous trap, but to trust in God means safety.

V26 Do you want justice? Don’t fawn on the judge, but ask The LORD for it!

V27 The good hate the badness of the wicked. The wicked hate the goodness of the good.

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Saturday, February 26, 2011

Hard Work Brings Prosperity * Proverbs 28

Welcome to Chapter 28 of our study of Proverbs! 

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PROVERBS 28

V1 The wicked flee when no one is chasing them! But the godly are bold as lions!

V2 When there is moral rot within a nation, its government topples easily; but with honest , sensible leaders there is stability.

V3 When a poor man oppresses those even poorer, he is like an unexpected flood sweeping away their last hope.

V5 Evil men don’t understand the importance of justice, but those who follow The LORD are much concerned about it.

V6 Better to be poor and honest than rich and a cheater.

V7 Young men who are wise obey the law; a son who is a member of a lawless gang is a shame to his father.

V8 Income from exploiting the poor will end up in the hands of someone who pities them.

V9 God doesn’t listen to the prayers of men who flout the law.

V10 A curse on those who lead astray the godly. But men who encourage the upright to do good shall be given a worthwhile reward.

V11 Rich men are conceited, but their real poverty is evident to the poor.

V12 When the godly are successful, everyone is glad. When the wicked succeed, everyone is sad.

V13 A man who refuses to admit his mistakes can never be successful. But if he confesses and forsakes them, he gets another chance.


V14 Blessed is the man who reveres God, but the man who doesn’t care is headed for serious trouble.

V17 A murder’s conscience will drive him into hell. Don’t stop him!

V18 Good men will be rescued from harm, but cheaters will be destroyed.

V19 ***Hard work brings prosperity; playing around brings poverty.

V20 The man who wants to do right will get a rich reward. But the man who wants to get rich quick will quickly fail.

V 22 Trying to get rich quick is evil and leads to poverty.

V23 In the end, people appreciate frankness more than flattery.

V24 A man who robs his parents and says, “What’s wrong with that?" is no better than a murderer.

V25 Greed causes fighting; trusting God leads to prosperity.

V26 A man is a fool to trust himself! But those who use God’s Wisdom are safe.




V27 If you give to the poor, your needs will be supplied! But a curse upon those who close their eyes to poverty.

V28 When the wicked prosper, good men go away; when the wicked meet disaster, good men return.

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