Monday, February 1, 2016

What does love look like? By L. LaShawn Erby

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Taken from 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 (The Living Bible, Tyndale 1972) Scripture is typed in bold.

❤ Love is patient and kind.
It feels good to be patient and kind. It also feels quite endearing when someone is patient and kind to you when you need it. Of course, some people won’t make that easy for you, but consider them as an opportunity to ‘get a workout of your love skill muscles.’ You can do it. I believe in you. 

❤ Love is never jealous or envious.
Neither of these emotions produces good results. If you should happen to feel them, release them. Ask GOD to help you. 
GOD is the source of all good and perfect gifts, so there’s no need to be jealous of someone else and their blessings. Ask Him for what you need. Never give too much energy to those jealous and envious of you. Instead, take them as a sign that you are on the right path. Thank GOD for them and ask Him to bless them. Then, keep it moving. 

❤ Love is never boastful or proud
Neither of these will ever produce positive results when the focus is on self. You can be pleased about things that you accomplish but the danger lies in believing that you succeed independently and not by the blessing of The LORD. Feel free to ‘boast’ about God’s Provision. He likes that. When you take the credit for yourself, there’s no room for God to get the Glory He deserves.

❤ Love is never haughty, or selfish or rude.
When you ask yourself, “Is this love?”, check to see if these qualities are present. Haughty means ‘thinking so highly of yourself that you look down your nose at others believing them to be beneath you.’ In other words, it means feeling arrogantly superior or acting snobbish or rude. Love is neither. Since love is not selfish nor rude, when you see such… Run! No, seriously. Don’t run. Pray and remain prayerful. That person just may actually be a heavenly assignment. 

❤ Love does not demand its own way.
Being willing to be agreeable and flexible is a choice. The one that chooses to do so is definitely operating in love. I associate love with meekness which is said to be power under control. Go with the flow.

❤ Love is not irritable or touchy.
Since love IS patient and kind, it stands to reason that being irritable and touchy is not love. Sure, we all have challenging days from time to time, but you cannot walk in love being touchy and irritable ‘all-of- the-time’! Breathe then chill.

❤ Love does not hold grudges.
Know who does? (The enemy of our souls) That rascal hates forgiveness so much because it is a quality of God and a habit that God wants us to cultivate within. You can’t hold a grudge and forgive at the same time. Redirect the grudge energy to something positive that will help someone.

❤ Love will hardly notice when others do it wrong.
Some translations write “keep a record of wrongs” instead of stating it the way this Living Bible does. I can say that I have matured in the ‘not holding grudges’ and ‘not keeping account of wrongs’ areas of my life. 

Let’s be real though, looking at this translation, I still have some work to do. I may not say anything but I do notice when others do me wrong. If we’re honest, we are all “works in progress” prayerfully improving every day. My advice to myself and to you, my Reader, is "Let It Go." We can do it.

❤ Love is never glad about injustice.
There are so many injustices going on in the world that I’d be writing about them until Jesus returns. Who can be happy that so many people are subjected to the abuse of living in poverty, denied basic rights and economic opportunities? How can we be passive and not enraged about impoverished communities like Flint, MI and St. Joseph, LA using toxic water because they have no choice? #BlackLivesMatter

Get involved. Be a part of the solution.

❤Love rejoices whenever the truth wins out.
Yes, it does. Do you know the sense of relief and pure joy when something you’ve known for a while to be true becomes evident to others who may have previously missed it?
The truth is GOD loved YOU so much that He gave His Son, Jesus, to die for your (our) mistakes. Jesus loves you so much that would love to be welcomed into your heart and life. Just ask HIM.

Spoiler Alert:  It’s a fixed fight. HE loves You. HE Is The Truth and HE’S coming back.  We must be ready. Want to know more? Email your questions to:

Years ago, I wrote a six part series on Love. Here is the link to Part 1 of Where is the Love? if you’d like to read more.

I'm Back

 I took a break from posting to pursue other things that kept me pretty busy. My plan was to begin anew in 2015 but a freak accident on an Amtrak train injured my finger and put those plans on hold. Ironically, my plan had been to write a series on my Amtrak travels over the years. It's still one of my favorite ways to travel, when I'm not in a hurry of course.

I have a new monthly series beginning today. I pray that it blesses you tremendously.

My best,
LaShawn Erby

Monday, March 31, 2014

Growing in Wisdom - Proverbs 31

These are the wise sayings of King Lemuel of Massa, taught to him at his mother’s knee:

2 O my son whom I have dedicated to The Lord,

3 Do not spend your time with women – the royal pathway to destruction.

4 And it is not for kings, O Lemuel, to drink wine and whiskey.

5 For if they drink they may forget their duties and be unable to give justice to those who are oppressed.


6,7 Hard liquor is for sick men at the brink of death and wine for those deep in depression. Let them drink to forget their poverty and misery.

8 You should defend those who cannot help themselves.

9 Yes, speak up for the poor and needy and see that they get justice.

10 If you can find a truly good wife, she is worth more than precious gems!

11 Her husband can trust her and she will richly satisfy his needs.

12 She will not hinder him but help him all her life.

13 She finds wool and flax and busily spins it.

14 She buys imported foods, brought by ship from distant ports.

15 She gets up before dawn to prepare breakfast for her household, and plans the day’s work for her servant girls.

16 She goes out to inspect a field, and buys it; with her own hands she plants a vineyard.

17 She is energetic, a hard worker,

18 and watches for bargains. She works far into the night!

19,20 She sews for the poor and generously gives to the needy.

21 She has no fear of winter for her household, for she has made warm clothes for all of them.

22 She also upholsters with finest tapestry; her own clothing is beautifully made – a purple gown of pure linen.

23 Her husband is well known, for he sits in the council chamber with the other civic leaders.

24 She makes belted linen garments to sell to the merchants.

25 She is a woman of strength and dignity and has no fear of old age.

26 When she speaks, her words are wise, and kindness is the rule in everything she says.

27 She watches carefully all that goes on throughout her household and is never lazy.

28 Her children stand and bless her; so does her husband. He praises her with these words:

29 “There are many fine women in the world, but you are the best of them all!”

30 Charm can be deceptive and beauty doesn’t last, but a woman who fears and reverences God shall be greatly praised.

31 Praise her for the many fine things she does. These good deeds of hers shall bring her honor and recognition from even the leaders of the nations.

Text: Children's Living Bible, Tyndale House Publishing 1972
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Sunday, March 30, 2014

Growing in Wisdom - Proverbs 30

These are the messages of Agur, son of Jakeh, from Massa, addressed to Ithiel and Ucal:

2 I am tired out, O God, and ready to die. I am too stupid even to call myself a human being!

3 I cannot understand man, let alone God.

4 Who else but God goes back and forth to heaven? Who else holds the wind in His fists and wraps up the oceans in his cloak? Who but God created the world? If there is any other, what is his name- and his son’s name – if you know it?

5 Every word of God proves true. He defends all who come to Him for protection.

6 Do not add to His words, lest He rebuke you, and you be found a liar.

7 O God, I beg two favors for you before I die:

8 First, help me never to tell a lie. Second, give me neither poverty nor riches! Give me just enough to satisfy my needs!

9 For if I grow rich, I may become content without God. And if I am too poor, I may steal, and thus insult God’s Holy Name.

10 Never falsely accuse a man to his employer, lest he curse you for your sin.

11,12 There are those who curse their father and mother and feel themselves faultless despite their many sins.

13,14 They are proud beyond description, arrogant, disdainful. They devour the poor with teeth as sharp as knives!

15,16 There are two things never satisfied, like a leech forever craving more: No, three things! No, four!  
            The barren womb
            A barren desert

17 A man who mocks his father and despises his mother shall have his eye plucked out by ravens and eaten by vultures.

18,19 There are three things too wonderful for me to understand – no, four!
            How an eagle glides through the sky.
            How a serpent crawls upon a rock.
            How a ship finds its way across the heaving ocean.
            The growth of love between a man and a girl.

20 There is another thing too: how a prostitute can sin and then say, “What’s wrong with that?

21,22,23 There are three things that make the earth tremble – no, four it cannot stand:
            A slave who becomes a king,
            A rebel who prospers
            A bitter woman when she finally marries.
            A servant girl who marries her mistress’ husband.

24-28 There are four things that are small but unusually wise:
            Ants: they aren’t strong, but store up food for the winter.
 Cliff badgers: delicate little animals who protect themselves by living among the  rocks.
            The locusts: though they have no leader, they stay together in swarms.
            The lizard: they are easy to catch and kill, yet are found even in king’s palaces!

29,30,31 There are three stately monarchs in the earth – no, four:
            The lion, king of the animals. He won’t turn aside for anyone.
            The peacock.
            The he-goat.
            A king as he leads his army.

32 If you have been a fool by being proud or plotting evil, don’t brag about it – cover your mouth with your hand in shame.

33 As the churning of cream yields butter and a blow to the nose causes bleeding, so anger causes quarrels.

Text: Children's Living Bible, Tyndale House Publishing 1972
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Saturday, March 29, 2014

Growing in Wisdom - Proverbs 29

The man who is often reproved but refuses to accept criticism will suddenly be broken and never have another chance.

2 With good men in authority, the people rejoice; but with the wicked in power, they groan.

3 A wise son makes his father happy, but a lad who hangs around with prostitutes disgraces him.

4 A just king gives stability to his nation, but one who demands bribes destroys it.

5,6 Flattery is a trap; evil men are caught in it, but good men stay away and sing for joy.

7 The good man knows the poor man’s rights; the godless don’t care.

8 Fools start fights everywhere while wise men try to keep peace.

9 There’s no use arguing with a fool. He only rages and scoffs and tempers flare.

10 The godly pray for those who long to kill them.

11 A rebel shouts in anger; a wise man holds his temper in and cools it.

12 A wicked ruler will have wicked aides on his staff.

13 Rich and poor are alike in this: each depends on God for light.

14 A king who is fair to the poor shall have a long reign.

15 Scolding and spanking a child helps him to learn. Left to himself, he brings shame to his mother.

16 When rulers are wicked, their people are too; but good men will live to see the tyrant’s downfall.

17 Discipline your son and he will give you happiness and peace of mind.

18 Where there is ignorance of God, the people run wild; but what a wonderful thing it is for a nation to know and keep this laws!

19 Sometimes mere words are not enough – discipline is needed. For the words may not be heeded.

20 There is more hope for a fool than for a man of quick temper.

21 Pamper a servant from childhood and he will expect you to treat him as a son!

22 A hot-tempered man starts fights and gets into all kinds of trouble.

23 Pride ends in a fall, while humility brings honor.

24 A man who assists a thief must really hate himself! For he knows the consequence but does it anyway.

25 Fear of man is a dangerous trap, but to trust in God means safety.

26 Do you want justice? Don’t fawn on the judge but ask The Lord for it!

27 The good hate the badness of the wicked. The wicked hate the goodness of the good.

Text: Children's Living Bible, Tyndale House Publishing 1972
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